CARING

Hmm I've just learnt something about caring people.

If you care for someone don't expect the person to care as much as you do. So look at the motives of your caring. Do you care because you really care for his/her life or because you also want that person to care for you back. I always had this issue. I realise that in the bible it asks us to care because Jesus cares. But I guess the human side of me would want the other person to care back.

I remembered Su Anne told me, we all care differently....... and all of us have a certain limit to our caring. Someone once told me that I cared too much that it gave so much pressure for him. To that person let me say to you that it was not my intention to do so. I love caring for those whom I really care. I am able to give as much because I have the ability and resources too.

Caring for someone means you need to first love that person. Love meaning not the gf bf only but it also includes love from all aspects. I care for my own family because I love them. I care for Sui YIng so much because I love her. I care for Derrick so much because I love him. So without love we cannot care. Jesus loves us so much that's why he can care so much.

But be warned.........it can become frustrating. Why? because sometimes you love them too much you become emotional attached to them. So you figured out that you are not doing more or not doing a good job when they don't respond to you. I've learn that sometime the other party just can't care like you do. Give him/her the chance to care in his/her own way. HAha easier said than done but it's something that we got to learn if not it hurts bad.

Another thing I've learn is be honest with each other. If you feel that you have been neglected tell the person.....maybe he/she has cared for you but you didn't notice like maybe staying a few days more or even just spend time with you. Just tell each other how you guys feel, then hopefully both of you will come to an understanding.

Caring for people is not an easy task. We need God to actually sustain us when you feel emotionally dry. As for the cared for person, I know also......I was cared for too, and I sometimes do not appreciate it. So to those who are cared for remember the carer. Sometimes the things you do and say can hurt the person who is caring for you. Maybe you don't know it but sometimes the carer also needs some little attention from you the cared for.

To everyone........don't stop caring for one another. It is through caring that we can show love to each other and I guess it will make this world a better place